One of the worst things that can happen in your life is finding out that someone close to your heart has passed away. It hurts to accept the reality that you are not going to get another chance to be with that person. You have no other choice left but to grieve the death of your loved one and move on from it. We understand that there is no easy way to overcome this heartbreaking moment in your life. “They need to see that grief includes missing someone after they die and being sad when we can’t see them or talk to them,” Jill A. Johnson-Young, LCSW says.
For this reason, we are going to share to you some of the effective methods that you can use to ensure that you will not have a hard time in handling the loss of a person who matters in your life. Here are some of the things that you need to remember:
Remember The Happy Memories
Stop thinking of all the negative emotions associated with the death of your friend or family member. Instead, make an effort to replace it with better and happier memories. Remember all the lovely times and great bonding moments that you shared with the said person. Fill your heart with joy instead of sadness. Take note that your loved one would be happy to see you move on from the hurtful event.
Cry Your Heart Out
You cannot just wake up one day and force yourself to forget the pain. Take note that you have the right to express what you feel. It is entirely okay to cry your heart out until you feel better about the situation. Do not prevent yourself from showing what you honestly think. Take note that the more you restrain yourself, the more challenging it is on your part to fully move on.
Be With Others
“Families who feel together heal together.” as Christina G. Hibbert, PsyD put it. “Let them talk, cry, tell their story over and over to you. Say, ‘I’m so sorry,’ and ‘I’m here for you.’” she added.
Do not be afraid to grieve with other people. Share your pain and suffering to others so that you will not have a hard time letting go. Talk to other people who have also experienced the loss of a loved one. In so doing, you will get a better chance of finding peace and understanding what happened. Being with these people can help you to slowly see that there are still better tomorrows that you can enjoy soon.
Keep Yourself Busy
At this point, it is essential to emphasize the fact that not every person has his way of grieving for the death of a person. There are those who can function well if they start to become busy with other stuff. If you believe that this is going to work for you, then all you have to do is to look for other things or to-do’s that can keep you preoccupied. By investing your time in these projects, you will begin to take your mind off the pain. Eventually, you will start to heal.
“Taking some time away from the situation will help change their mindset and assure them that life continues, even after a sad event.” Jeff Nalin, PsyD says.
As already emphasized above, there is no easy way to move forward and let go of a loved one who already passed away. You have to put your heart and mind into making it happen before you can experience success. Be patient enough to go through all the grieving process.