In the last 2019 trauma conference, I wanted people to think that the way I am handling myself after a painful loss is now better than before. I decided to forward to visualizing my ambitions and goals. I started reading a lot of books, I also managed to eat healthy foods, and I tried exercising more. I felt more confident and motivated compared to the last time I checked myself. I told myself that this is it. I am now progressing and developing by taking positive actions. Everything was perfect. That was at least what I thought.
The world of self-development already changed a lot of things in my life. However, contrary to what other people think, it is not butterflies and roses. Self-development also has its glaring issues that I had to overcome face-to-face, and it is not easy. Sometimes, instead of things motivating you, self-help can destroy your emotional and mental capabilities. That is because of the process of forcing yourself to become better even if you already tried enough. You will still want more because you do not understand the level of contentment and satisfaction you have had to experience. Therefore, even if you focused on doing productive things in life, you still end up empty and mind-boggled with all the pain and suffering from the past.
Improving your life after a traumatic situation is entirely challenging. That is especially when you want to prove something to yourself. You may understand the necessary actions you have to take to achieve overall improved health. But you also need to consider the process of maybe giving up and changing everything for the sake of creating a better you. There are no short-cuts in self-development, and that is the first thing you should need to consider. After understanding that, that is the time you can slowly begin the process of altering your life.